A Broken Pot

A Broken Pot

You probably have heard many times from the people complaining about others that “we do so good to others, but in return they always dodge us”. Even some of you might have experienced the same. The bitterness that arises because of this attitude is enough to grow the feeling of hatred for the concerned ones. What is the right way to eliminate such kind of feelings? The answer to this question is a “Carefree attitude”. Hazrat Ali (R.A) said that, “A human being should be like a broken pot from which the love of other people can enter and leave”. This means that love for people isn’t something that should stay for long because that leads you to the breaking point, a point where one realizes that a perfect loyalty isn’t a trait of a common individual. It’s a holy trait. Allah has taught us many times to be kind and loving but he never asked us to increase the magnitude of this Love that much, that you become blind to see the fault of your beloved ones. Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W once said, “ Among Allah’s servants are people who are neither Prophets nor martyrs, but whom the Prophets and martyrs will deem fortunate because of their high status with Allah” They asked: “O messenger of Allah! Inform us of who they are”. He said: “They are people who loved each other for Allah’s sake, without being related to one another or being tied to one another by the exchange of wealth. By Allah, their faces will be luminous and they will be upon light. They will feel no fear when the people will  be feeling fear and they will feel no grief when the people will be grieving”. Then he read the verse, “Behold, on the friends of Allah, there shall be no fear nor shall they grieve.” [Sunan Abi Dawud (3527)]. So whenever you feel like people are not returning that what you are giving to them then just ask yourself, “am I doing this for the sake of ALLAH or for the sake of my own personal benefits?”.  Because when you are doing something only for Allah your expectations will automatically direct towards him not towards people. If people are hurting you, breaking you to the point of limit then don’t grieve.  Adopt a carefree attitude. It’s really ok not to be loved back. We are here to please our God, not to please his creation. Love the humanity, dive in the sea of love, but don’t try to accumulate the water of the sea. You will sink. Let the water enter and when it tries to flow out, then don’t hinder its path. Let it go.